You might wonder why sexual brakes exist at all, but there’s a good reason: they prevent us from having sex that might be risky or reacting to inappropriate stimuli. Problems occur when your excitement and inhibition systems are out of balance.
If you have sensitive brakes, for example, you’re easily turned off and find it harder to get turned on.
Factor #1: The first factor is the sexual excitement system or SES.
This consists of everything that turns a person on.
All examples of things that activate the SES like pushing your foot down on the accelerator in your car. There’s a second factor to arousal: Factor #2: The sexual inhibition system or SIS. Things that activate this system turn you off, and they’re known as brakes. Stress is a big one , so is feeling disconnected from your partner and having a poor self-image .
Childhood trauma and abuse , depression, and even certain medications can act as brakes, and you might not suspect it.
If your brakes are insensitive, you might engage in unsafe sexual practices.
On the other hand, people with sensitive accelerators get turned on much easier, and those with insensitive accelerators are harder to turn on.
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The dual-control model was first suggested by researchers Bancroft and Janssen in 2007 .
The pair suggested that sex drive is based on two factors, not just one .
Some women have already discovered that having sex before they really want to is a successful strategy .