Whether it’s just hanging out or the date of a lifetime, being clear about your expectations and how they match up with your partner’s is the most important thing when it comes to dating vs. It’s the best way to avoid being caught in a sticky situation or getting your feelings hurt. If that scares them away, you know you’re too good for them anyways! Courtney Cook is a sophomore at the University of Michigan studying creative writing and art and design.
Think of just having him there when you need him and for him to rely on you because you’re the only one who understands. It kind of sneaks up on you and you’re left wondering how it even happened (usually after a few shots of tequila). Or did he just say, “I’ll see you around,” and then text you at 2 am? ”No one likes to ask that question and no one wants to get it wrong. Don’t give me that "it’s complicated" crap because you’re better than that.
It’s when the cute guy at the bar catches your eye, and you’re not imagining it. If it’s a conversation you need to have, then have at it.
I want to feel secure and know who I am to someone, even if we start off a bit shaky. Haven’t you’ve heard, some people get married drunk and forget who they even got married to? Think of it like this: Hanging out is a phase, and hopefully, it’ll go away soon, along with crop tops and bad ombrés.
If you can skip that weird waiting period, all power to you.
A date doesn’t have to be extravagant to signify effort—asking to get coffee together may seem like just hanging out but it puts the emphasis on getting to know each other and fostering conversation, which is much more date oriented than a hangout.
Lo Dolce recommends asking the person who asked you straight up, “So are you asking me out on a date? It is the quickest way to relieve stress and to know where you two stand.I can’t put my finger on it, and maybe you can’t either, but what is it with dating? There’s some interest, but one thing leads to another, and boom, you’re hanging out. It’s not a huge step up from being friends, and not quite at “talking,” which is just as vague.It’s this weird limbo between just friends and hooking up, and I don’t like it.Courtney is the founder and president of Zeta Omega Eta, a feminist sorority dedicated to bringing like-minded women together to take on all the University of Michigan has to offer.Follow Courtney's adventures on her Instagram: @courtneyc00k !“For now, if I like a girl and I choose to spend the day or night with her I consider it a date.” In a case like Charlie’s, it doesn’t hurt to inquire about their motives and expectations to make sure you’re both on the same page.